Polyamory Therapist in Guelph, ON
Helping individuals and partners build polyamorous and open relationships with more safety, communication, and trust. Sessions available in-person and online across ON.
“Are we doing this right?”
Non-monogamy can be expansive, affirming, and deeply meaningful—but it can also bring up complicated feelings that are hard to talk about, even with the people you love most. Maybe someone feels left out, like they're always waiting to be prioritized. Or you're involved in a dynamic that keeps tipping in ways that hurt, even when everyone is trying their best.
You might be constantly negotiating time, boundaries, or expectations…and wondering why it still feels tense. One of you might want to go deeper into non-monogamy, while another is feeling anxious or unsure if it’s sustainable (or worthwhile). And even when there's real love and affection, things can get hard: rupture happens, needs go unspoken, and communication breaks down.
What might’ve brought you to therapy for polyamory:
Dating others is creating tension or distance between you and your partner(s).
One of you feels ready to open up, the other feels scared and unsure.
Feelings of jealousy, anxiety, or insecurity are taking up more and more space.
Your platonic relationship feels shaky now that there are other romantic or sexual connections.
You're part of a throuple or triad and need help navigating shared dynamics.
You’re curious about non-monogamy, but not sure how to even start the conversation.
You’re wondering if this could feel easier (because right now, it feels the opposite).
You want your relationships to reflect your values—but fear keeps getting in the way.
MY APPROACH
My work with polyamorous and non-monogamous clients doesn’t follow a prescribed script or model.
Instead, it is more focused on creating relationships that feel honest, consensual, and rooted in emotional safety. Regardless of whether you’re exploring non-monogamy or have been practicing it for a while, you often need help tuning into what’s actually happening beneath the surface: the longings, fears, patterns, and beliefs shaping this experience.
Together, we slow the pace. Instead of bypassing discomfort or rushing toward clarity, we stay with what’s real—excitement, anxiety, jealousy, or grief. Many of these responses make more sense when we consider your attachment history, lived experiences, or the cultural narratives you’ve internalized. Exploring non-monogamy often brings those themes forward, and therapy gives them a place to safely land.
This isn’t about doing polyamory any “right” way (there isn’t one anyway). It’s about understanding what supports you—emotionally, relationally, somatically—and learning how to build agreements, boundaries, and ways of connecting with all partners that reflect that understanding. Sometimes that looks like deepening emotional safety in a long-term connection, and other times it means naming something new that’s been emerging.
Whether you’re part of a throuple, navigating solo poly, or somewhere in between, you don’t need to have it all figured out. This is a space where questions, contradictions, and mixed feelings are not just allowed—but expected. My role is to walk with you through it, helping you move toward something grounded, chosen, and fully your own.
what this work can shift
WHAT THIS WORK CAN SHIFT
Before…
It feels like you’re walking on eggshells in all your relationships.
You want to talk about boundaries or needs, but you don’t know how.
Jealousy or fear keeps taking over, and you don’t know what to do with it.
You care about each other, but something feels “off.”
After…
You can talk about hard things without it turning into a fight.
You understand where your feelings are coming from and what to do with them.
There’s more trust, more openness, and more choice.
You feel aligned and like a team.
You get to create relationships that actually work for you.
Questions?
FAQs
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Not at all. Some clients are exploring open relationships for the first time. Others aren't sure what model fits, and want space to figure that out. You’re welcome here wherever you’re at.
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Yes. I work with individuals, couples, and larger relationship units. That might look like triads, throuples, parallel relationships, or co-parenting dynamics. We can discuss what structure feels supportive.
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Nope. I work from a queer-informed, feminist, anti-oppressive foundation that fully affirms non-monogamy. You won’t have to translate or justify your relationship structure here.
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That’s okay. Individual work can be incredibly impactful even if your partner(s) aren’t ready to come in. This can be a space to understand yourself more deeply, get clear on your needs, and feel more resourced in navigating your relationships.
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Absolutely. These dynamics often show up in subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways, especially in relationship structures that are already outside the mainstream. This is a space where we name those things, not ignore them—and where your full context and experiences are always part of the conversation.
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