Sex Therapist in Guelph, ON
Making room for curiosity, concern, desire, and exploration. Sessions available in-person and online across ON.
Something about your relationship to sex or intimacy just doesn’t feel right—and maybe hasn’t felt right for a long time.
It’s frustrating how sex—which is supposed to be fun and fulfilling—has started to feel like something you perform or avoid, rather than something you experience. Or maybe you’ve never had the space to explore or ask yourself what you actually want and what feels good to you.
Sex therapy is a place to slow down and make sense of all of that—without shame or judgment and without skipping over the things that feel hard to name. Your own sexuality can be a lot to unpack, and at times, it’s not even clear what’s truly yours. So many of us absorb unspoken rules about sex, desire, gender, and worth long before we ever get the chance to explore what we actually want. You might have learned to prioritize someone else’s pleasure, to shrink your needs, or to keep quiet even when something didn’t feel good. Over time, this takes a toll.
You might be looking into sex therapy because…
Sex feels mechanical (at times, transactional), and you're not sure how to change that.
You don’t really know what you like or how to say it out loud.
There’s shame, fear, or anxiety tied up in sex.
You’re curious about your desires (maybe kink, maybe something else), but it feels scary or confusing to explore alone.
You’ve been dealing with pain or discomfort during sex.
Even though you feel close as partners, the sexual connection is distant or mismatched.
You’ve internalized messages about sex or gender that don’t fit who you are anymore.
You’re done people-pleasing and eager to have good, fun, present sex.
MY APPROACH
Sex is a form of communication, and therapy can help you understand what it’s trying to say.
I don’t separate sex from the rest of you. Together, we’ll look at how relational patterns, family history, nervous system responses, and cultural messaging all shape how you show up (or shut down) in your sexual life. Sometimes that looks like noticing the ways you freeze or disconnect during intimacy. Sometimes it looks like learning how to communicate your needs, reconnect with your body, or make space for desire again. And sometimes it means exploring the grief or shame that’s been driving your sexual patterns for years.
I work with partners of all structures and backgrounds—both individually or as a unit—who feel like the sexual part of their relationship is missing, mismatched, or painful. Often, what shows up in the bedroom is part of something bigger: a longing to feel seen, to feel close again, or to feel like your needs matter. Whether you're dealing with sexual pain, shame, avoidance, confusion, or disconnection, sex therapy is about helping you return to yourself, not just as a sexual being, but as someone who is deserving of safety, pleasure, and fulfillment.
what life can look like
WHAT LIFE CAN LOOK LIKE WITH SEX THERAPY
Before…
Sex feels like something you’re “supposed” to do.
You don’t know what you want, or you’re too afraid to say it.
It feels easier to go along with things than risk being misunderstood.
Your body feels distant—like something’s happening to you, not with you.
After…
You know what you want and what feels good, including what doesn’t.
You can speak up and make decisions confidently, knowing they’re your desires.
Intimacy becomes something real and meaningful.
You feel more alive, more in tune with your body, and more like yourself.
Pleasure isn’t “earned.” It’s something that belongs to you.
Questions?
FAQs
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This comes up a lot. When the emotional connection is strong, but desire feels distant, it can be painful or confusing. Therapy helps make sense of what’s happening underneath, and creates space to reconnect in an intimate way that feels good for both of you.
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Yes, absolutely. I’ve worked with folks navigating challenges like vaginismus, vulvodynia, peri-menopause hormonal changes, or fear that shows up in the body. Whatever you’re experiencing, we’ll approach it with compassion, and I can refer you to other care providers if that’s what you need as well.
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No. Many of my clients come in individually to explore their own relationship to sex, desire, identity, or trauma. This work can be very powerful on your own.
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Yes, fully. I work from a queer-informed, inclusive, and affirming lens. You won’t need to over-explain or justify your desires, identity, or relationship structure with me. All is welcome here. Learn more about my work HERE.
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Yes, I work with individuals, couples, and larger units like throuples. Even when sex is the focus, it’s rarely “just” about sex—there’s often grief, communication struggles, power dynamics, old patterns, or mismatched needs beneath the surface. We make space for all of it. You can learn more about how I support relationships HERE.
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